Sikap Semasa Konflik: Langkah Awal Ke Arah Perceraian?
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https://doi.org/10.33102/sainsinsani.vol1no1.6Keywords:
sikap; konflik; perceraian; Melayu; IslamAbstract
Previous studies suggest that behaviour presents by the individuals during marital conflict might predict a divorce in the early stage of marriage. Therefore, this exploratory study has been initiated to examine if the Malay-Muslim couples in Kuala Lumpur area posits any destructive behaviors that most often led to a divorce. General findings reveal that withdrawal behaviors entail disengaging from either the conflict itself or person and may include leaving the situation or keeping quiet is the most common among Malay-Muslim couples. Thus, it can be assumed that conflict behavior is not the sole predictor for a divorce among Malay-Muslim couples.
Keywords: behaviour; conflict; divorce; Malay; Islam
Abstrak: Kajian lepas mencadangkan bahawa sikap tertentu yang ditunjukkan oleh individu semasa menguruskan konflik rumahtangga boleh membawa kepada perceraian di awal tahun perkahwinan. Maka, kajian rintis ini dijalankan untuk melihat samada pasangan Melayu-Islam di Kuala Lumpur mengamalkan sikap yang boleh kepada kemusnahan perkahwinan. Secara umumnya, dapat disimpulkan bahawa sikap menjauhkan diri yang membawa kepada pengasingan diri dari konflik atau seseorang dan mungkin melibatkan sikap meninggalkan situasi atau berdiam diri adalah sikap yang sering diamalkan oleh pasangan Melayu-Islam. Namun begitu, dapatlah diandaikan bahawa sikap yang ditunjukkan semasa konflik berlaku bukanlah satu-satunya penentu kepada penceraian, namun mungkin dipengaruhi oleh faktor-faktor lain.
Kata kunci: sikap; konflik; perceraian; Melayu; Islam
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